It is an old truism that if you want something done, give it to someone who is already busy. Yet how much better it is to share the burden. When you ask someone to help, you give them the chance to feel good about themselves and perhaps to learn something new. They may also have ideas that will improve the task outcome. It may be tempting to “do it all yourself,” because that way you know it will get done. That path leads to exhaustion for you, and provides no opportunity for growth for those around you, whether they be children, friends, or coworkers. Don’t just dump it on someone else – consider who you are asking, and what skills they may have or supervision they may need. By sharing the burden, you show respect for those around you and respect for yourself.
Submitted by Judith Burke, Community and Family Services Advocate/Social Worker