Did you know January is Stalking Awareness Month?
STALKING IS A CRIME
A stalker can be someone you know well or not at all. In most cases the stalker has dated or been involved with the people they stalk. Stalking cases involve men stalking women, men stalking men, women stalking women, and women stalking men.
Some things stalkers may do:
- · Repeatedly call you, including hang-ups.
- · Follow you and show up wherever you are.
- · Send unwanted gifts, letters, texts, or e-mails.
- · Damage your home, car, or other property.
- · Monitor your phone calls or computer use.
- · Use technology, like hidden cameras or global positioning systems (GPS), to track where you go.
- · Drive by or hang out at your home, school, or work.
- · Threaten to hurt you, your family, friends, or pets.
- · Find out about you by using public records or online search services, hiring investigators, going through your garbage, or contacting friends, family,
neighbors, or co-workers.
- · Posting information or spreading rumors about you on the Internet, in a public place, or by word of mouth.
- · Other actions that control, track, or frighten you.
THINGS YOU CAN DO
Stalking is unpredictable and dangerous. No two stalking situations are alike. There are no guarantees that what works for one person will work for another, yet you can take steps to increase your safety.
- · If you are in immediate danger, call 911.
- · Trust your instincts. Don’t downplay the danger. If you feel you are unsafe, you probably are. Take threats seriously. Danger generally is higher when
the stalker talks about suicide or murder, or when a victim tries to leave or end the relationship.
- · Contact a crisis hotline, victim services agency, or a domestic violence or rape crisis program. They can help you devise a safety plan, give you
information about local laws, weigh options such as seeking a protection order, and refer you to other services.
- · Develop a safety plan, including things like changing your routine, arranging a place to stay, and having a friend or relative go places with you. Also,
decide in advance what to do if the stalker shows up at your home, work, school, or somewhere else. Tell people how they can help you.
- · Don’t communicate with the stalker or respond to attempts to contact you.
- · Keep evidence of the stalking. When the stalker follows you or contacts you, write down the time, date, and place. Keep emails, text messages, phone
messages, letters, or notes. Photograph anything of yours the stalker damages and any injuries the stalker causes. Ask witnesses to write down what
Stalking is traumatic. You may experience nightmares, lose sleep, get depressed or feel like you’re no longer in control of your life. These reactions are normal. It can help to tell your friends and family about the stalking and develop a safety plan.
For more information or assistance contact:
Shu’-‘aa-xuu-dvn (In A Good Way Place) Domestic Violence/Sexual Assault Program Tolowa Dee-ni’ Nation
Community & Family Services Department
110 W. First Street
Smith River, 95567
24-hour Domestic Violence/Sexual Assault Crisis Line (707)951-8276